I stumbled on an writing on Fetlife that was quoting something that the lady heard in a submission workshop: "If everything fails, try submitting." Or something to that effect. 

At first I thought: what an obvious statement!

But then it got me thinking, and it made me realize how many time I'm actually not submitting but simply obeying. 

It might look the same to the Dominant, but it feels different inside of me. 

So what is the difference?

To me, when I submit, there is no rational thought process that goes behind my actions/reactions: they are just inevitable. 

When I simply obey instead, it is my will that is directing the actions/reactions and, at times, it can end up building resentment.

Authors: rida

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