Every few years, I sort of “drop out” of whatever scene I’m in. I suppose it’s kind of like moving, but without having to go somewhere. I’ve been in the Bay Area since Junior High, so it’s reasonable to assume I’d have to make quantum adjustments to my social life or I’d still be drinking fortified wine in back of the Safeway and watching my friends ride skateboards.

 

I traded school for punk rock in ’88, punk rock for a career in ’91, a career for entrepreneurship in ’96, entrepreneurship for piece of mind in ’03, and piece of mind for kink/porn in ’06. At each transition, I basically disappeared. Changed my email/phone and sort of walked away. So this is nothing new for me. I don’t regret any of my big life choices, and I’m not ashamed of any of them, but at various points in my life it just gets easier to slip out the back door than keep hanging out while I get sick of the party.

I’ve been kinky for as long as I can remember, and I only plan on getting more perverted with time, but I’m pretty much done with the “Kink Community” for the time being, if not forever. I realize that public dungeons and community groups are important for kinky people, just like all-ages rock clubs are important for artistic youth. That being said, at this point in my life, I have no desire to go to a “play party” or an all-ages punk show in some smelly club. Also, I’ve had a blast doing Rope::Burn, teaching classes, and performing, but the amount of work and/or gladhanding it takes to put on these events has become overwhelming.

So, you’ll probably continue to see less of me out and about. I don’t plan on doing any classes, public shows, or big parties anytime soon. That being said, I still would love to do private lessons or private shows, and I’m open to any and all suggestions of how to have fun being kinky without all the logistics and/or politics. And, if you are someone I know and you want to hang out, just drop me a line.


 
Posted: 2010-10-21 10:58:42

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